After waiting 3, 4 or 20 years, the BIG DAY is finally here.
YOUR COLLEGE GRADUATION.
You are probably feeling a mix of emotions now: nervous, excited, relieved, worried, eager and, most likely, stressed. Stressed about arriving at commencement on time, stressed about the kids’ inability to sit still, stressed what the future will now hold…
But you don’t have to feel that way. The day should be a celebration filled with joy, laughs and tears - the good kind, of course. So relax, take a deep breath, and use these seven ways to ensure your graduation day is everything you dreamed of – and stress-free.
Be prepared. Ensure that you have everything necessary to make the day go smoothly for you and your guests. Have your tickets ready, understand the parking arrangements and keep a schedule of the day’s events on hand. But most importantly, get a good night sleep and eat a full and healthy breakfast – with the chaos of the day, planning rest and food may prove elusive!
Dress appropriately. Consider everything you will be doing on commencement day; sitting for long periods of time, walking around the arena, going out to celebrate after with family, wearing a long robe and fitted cap – so keep your attire both nice and comfortable. Wear shoes that can accommodate all your activities, style hair simply to fit under your cap and wear something with pockets – you don’t want to juggle a phone when you accept your diploma on stage.
Understand this is your day. Don’t let anyone ruin your mood or your day – commencement is all about you! Let the kids’ complaining slide, or tune out any traffic delays on your way to commencement. Remember, you did it, and this day is meant to celebrate your success.
Congratulate yourself. Think about all you have accomplished in college, your career and your life. Everything you have done so far has brought you to this moment, so acknowledge yourself on a job wonderfully done.
Slow down. Let go of tomorrow, and all the resume writing, family event scheduling or project managing that needs to be done. All your responsibilities, obligations and worries can wait. Simply enjoy the moment and appreciate the day you have been dreaming of for so long.
Say thank you. While, yes, you achieved this milestone on your own, you did receive some support along the way. From your cooperative spouse to the uplifting coworker, or the patient child to the understanding best friend, thank whoever helped you get this far. Relationships, like your degree, should be treasured, so let them know how grateful you are for their love and support.
Take a photo. You’re running here, there, and back again, or everyone is tired, hungry and ready to go. But no matter where you are, take the time to snap a few photos of your special day; it will be one of the most memorable of your life.
However you choose to look at commencement – the end of a significant accomplishment or the beginning of a new future – enjoy the day. Appreciate your loved ones, your successes and your brand new degree. You earned it. Be proud. Because you triumphed. You did it.
We are always receiving (be it warranted or unwarranted) advice, hearing tips and opinions on every topic from raising kids to eating right, dating to careers, and everything in between. After awhile, advice (especially from certain people) can be annoying or even offensive, and we end up tuning out the message. However, the advice we really should be listening to is not really advice at all, but life lessons intended to help us think. To be more open-minded. To be more understanding of the world around us.
At the end of every school year, commencement speakers in colleges around the globe offer their own life lessons, some funny, some thought-provoking, some encouraging – all inspiring. And 2013 was no different. This year’s class of speakers offered life lessons that not only today’s graduates, but also the graduates of yesterday and tomorrow, should take to heart. So here’s our top 7 best life lessons from some of the most powerful, knowledgeable and influential people of our time:
On leadership: John Donahoe, CEO and President at eBay Inc.
“Be the best leader you can be by linking your work with a sense of purpose, never stop learning, [understand] the most valuable learning often comes during difficult times and build your full life, not just your work life. The skills you learn in your personal life – listening, empathy, and humility -- are invaluable for success at work.”
On assertiveness: Randi Zuckerberg, Founder & CEO at Zuckerberg Media
“Being a good worker means being proactive about creating opportunities for yourself. It means thinking of additional things you could be doing, and going above and beyond your delegated responsibilities…. In business, you want people who are creative, who are go-getters, who create opportunities out of nothing. So, go out into the world. And do the best darn job you can. Good work is always recognized and rewarded. But in order to get placed on the project team that catches your eye, you have to speak up and ask for it. Don’t be afraid to be assertive and let the team know what you want. You might get a "No," but at least your manager knows that you would like to try your hand at something new in the future…. Ask for what you want rather than allow others to pigeonhole you into what they think you want.”
On humanity: Deepak Chopra, Founder, Chopra Foundation
“I entreat you to not lose your idealism with the passage of years. That idealism is connected to your knowingness of the good that can be created and the power to manifest it. In you lies the potential for a more peaceful, just, sustainable, healthier and happier world. Remember that the goal of all other goals is to be happy… . To really be happy you need to expand awareness and overcome your self-limiting beliefs and then choose selfless actions, or ways to be of service to others. This leads to true and lasting happiness and wisdom.
On adaptability: Elizabeth Warren, United States Senator from Massachusetts
“All the planning and preparation in the world can’t prepare you for the many twists that are coming your way… You can’t predict it all… Never be so faithful to your plan that you are unwilling to consider the unexpected. Never be so faithful to your plan that you are unwilling to entertain the improbable opportunity that comes looking for you. And never be so faithful to your plan that when you hit a bump in the road – or when the bumps hit you – you don’t have the fortitude, grace, and resiliency to rethink and regroup…. Plans or no plans, keep a little space in your heart for the improbable. You won’t regret it… .By getting an excellent education, you have built a strong and resilient foundation. And if you work hard, persevere, and leave yourself open to the occasional unexpected opportunity, you’ll do great.”
On self-purpose: Jeff Immelt, Chairman and CEO at GE
“We could all look around and accept today’s challenges as insurmountable. Or we can use them to inspire action. See the word “lookout” not as a warning but as an invitation to make a difference on something that matters. Be on the lookout for the opportunity to change. To learn. To take risk. To persist. And to lead. Always strive to be better… that way, I know, you will make the world better.”
On happiness: Arianna Huffington, President and Editor-in-Chief at The Huffington Post Media Group
“The founding fathers wrote about the pursuit of happiness, and if you go back to the original documents -- as I'm sure all of you have done -- happiness did not mean the pursuit of more ways to be entertained. It was the happiness that comes from feeling good by doing good…. So find your place to stand -- your place of wisdom and peace and strength… so that all of us -- women and men -- can live our lives with more grace, more joy, more empathy, more gratitude, and yes, more love.”
On courage: Maria Shriver, Journalist, Author & Activist
As you head out into the Open Field of life, keep your mind open, keep your heart open. Don’t be afraid to be afraid. Courageous people often are afraid… Have the courage to go beyond your fears. Have the courage to go beyond judgment. Have the courage go beyond shoulda-could-woulda — go beyond others’ rules and expectations. Live and write your own story and then be brave enough to communicate it authentically. Trust me, someone else will be inspired by it and learn from it. Be committed to communicating the truth. Don’t get so caught up along the way in what you’re doing and where you’re going that you lose sight of your core values: who you are and what's important in your life. And finally, remember this: Whenever you’re in doubt: PAUSE — take a moment. Look at your options — check your intentions — and THEN? Take the high road.”
These commencement speakers offer all of us the insight and wisdom of exceptional backgrounds and experiences that we ordinarily might not get. Their life lessons and guidance prove useful and necessary to hear in today’s difficult world. Perhaps some their words will influence you, or you may share them with someone you know who needs to hear it. And so, when Arthur Brooks, B.A. ’94 and President of the American Enterprise Institute, steps onto the stage at the 2013 Thomas Edison State College Commencement later this month, you can be sure we’ll all be listening.
We all have different reasons for returning to college. Perhaps it is to improve your career opportunities or increase your chances for a high-paying job. Maybe you are looking for the competitive edge that will enhance your marketability or help you triumph over any adversity in an economic downturn. Or, earning your degree is a personal goal, driven by your sense of pride and self-fulfillment.
Regardless of reason, you are not alone in choosing to pursue your education. And celebrities are no different. Household names like Steven Spielberg and Shaquille O’Neal were once in your shoes, choosing to go back to school after establishing noteworthy careers in their field. Filled with dreams and determination, these five celebrities prove that it’s never too late to go back to school, even when you sell millions of albums, smash box office records or slam dunk your way into sports history.
Unhappy with the direction his career was going, James Franco decided to re-enroll in 2006. Taking classes while working, and studying on film sets, Franco was able to graduate in 2008 with a 3.5/4.0 GPA and did not stop at his bachelor’s degree. In 2010, he received his MFA. Never one to rest on his past accomplishments, Franco is now a PhD student who teaches at USC, UCLA, CalArts and NYU in the Film and English departments.
After moving to California to pursue a film career, Steven Spielberg applied to his dream school, the University of Southern California, but was denied two separate times. After establishing a remarkable career in the film industry, Steven Spielberg was honored by USC with an honorary degree in 1994. However, he returned to complete his B.A. degree in Film Production and Electronic Arts 35 years after starting college.
Achieving fame as an undergraduate, Ugly Betty star America Ferrara left college to concentrate on her increasingly busy career in film and television. Ten years later, she returned to complete her bachelor’s degree in International Relations.
As a jet-setting superstar, Shakira has performed in numerous countries, feeding her interest in world history, often studying the history and languages of the countries she has visited. After one of her tours ended in the summer of 2007, Shakira took courses in History of Western Civilization, using her middle and last names so as to avoid being recognized by her professor and classmates as a celebrity.
Leaving Louisiana State University after three years for the opportunity to play in the NBA, Shaquille O’Neal promised his mother he would return to school and earn his bachelor’s degree. He fulfilled that promise in 2000 with a B.A. in General Studies, missing a home game to attend his graduation. In 2005, O’Neal returned to school to complete his MBA, and became Dr. O’Neal by earning an Ed.D. in Human Resource Development in 2012. But the famous basketball MVP isn’t done yet – O’Neal spoke with a reporter for ABC News at his graduation in 2012 expressing interest in furthering his education at law school.
At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter when you completed school; all that matters is that you earned your degree. Whether you are looking to get a promotion, enhance your sense of self or made a promise to your family, always remember getting that degree is never too late.
If you do, you will be putting yourself in very good company of those who returned to finish what they started.
“We all have dreams; in order to make dreams come into reality it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline and effort."
- Jesse Owens, Olympic Gold-Medalist runner
As the Trenton Half Marathon approaches this fall, avid and amateur runners from all over the world are stretching, strengthening and pushing themselves to prepare for the big event. And in homes, libraries and offices across the country, students are proof-reading assignments, checking their reading lists and gearing up for exams as they head toward a different type of finish line. Whether you are gearing up to run a race or getting ready to return to college, you are preparing to accomplish a major milestone in your life. You can see the finish line as you hit the “submit” button on your application for graduation, or sprint toward the last credits you need to fulfill your degree requirements. After all that training, studying and preparing, at the end of the day, you did it. With your friends and family cheering you on at graduation or at the finish line, maybe a marathon and college aren’t so different after all:
Start training: In each endeavor, there needs to be some sort of training, mentally and/or physically. You wouldn’t take a test without studying, just as you wouldn’t run a race without proper stretching.
Know your limits: Early on in your training or schooling, you need to know your limits, and push them. By pushing yourself, you can go that extra mile to cross that finish line. On the other hand, it is just as important to know your limits and learn to take it easy when necessary – you wouldn’t use up all your stamina at the start of a race by sprinting. So if the training seems difficult, dial it back. Or if being a full-time student with a family and job seems impossible, consider finishing your degree on a part-time basis.
Move at your own pace: Like finishing your degree, the time it takes you to graduation day does not matter; all that does matter is that you reached the finish line. You did it.
Go the distance: An added benefit of marathons is that they are often held in a variety of locations, guiding you through routes that can be fun and exciting to experience for the first time. Likewise, completing your degree can advance your career, providing new opportunities and ventures you wouldn’t have been able to experience if not for that degree.
Get rewarded: Be it a medal or diploma, there is always a reward waiting for you at the finish line. But, the personal reward is the greater one; you develop a sense of achievement and fulfillment. Just as you were inspired to run or study, you will inspire others to complete their own goals. And that’s a pretty amazing feeling.
Ultimately, you won’t finish a marathon or complete your degree unless you are motivated. With the right training, mentality and inspiration, you will get to that finish line; for our graduates this September, it will be poised right there above the commencement stage. Be it college or a marathon, understanding the expectations of any goal will only prepare you as you hit the ground running.
What other ways have you found a marathon and college to be similar? Share them in the comments!